The One Question that Will Change the Rest of Your Life (for Better or Worse)

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Who is the type of person that _________________________?

fill in the bank to receive an answer to all of your prayers.

It’s that simple; yes, the answer to that question will change the rest of your life. It’s up to you whether that change will be for better or worse.

You’re probably wondering how do I fill in the blank and how can such a simple question change the rest of my life?

No worries — continue reading below and I’ll answer those questions for you.

How do I fill in the blank?

The answer to this question lies within you and it could be different for everyone.

The best way to fill in your blank is by figuring out the changes that you want to create in your life.

What new habits would you like to cultivate?

Would you like to stop smoking? Lose weight? Make more money? Have more time for your family?

Perhaps you just want to become better at something that you’re already good at such as reading, sports, or making people laugh.

I can’t tell you what your answer is, but I am sure you can come up with a few without giving it much thought.

We all have something in our lives that we would like to change. Even the most successful people in the world want more out of life.

Even the all-knowing self-help gurus that you’ll find all over the web can find something in their lives that they would like to improve.

This doesn’t mean that you’ll never be happy, but it is human nature to always want more of the things you enjoy.

So let’s do a few examples of how you can fill in your blank.

Who is the type of person that _________________________?


I want to lose 50 pounds: Who is the type of person that can teach me how to lose weight?

I want to become a better driver: Who is the type of person that can teach me how to be a safer driver.

I want to be a millionaire: Who is the type of person that can guide me on my journey to becoming a millionaire?

I want to become a better writer: Who is the type of person that can help me improve my writing skills?

I want to stop watching so much TV: Who is the type of person that can help me stop this habit?

I didn’t include any negative desires because you already know the answer to who is the type of person that can help you with those; YOU!

But who is this mythical creature that can help you change your bad habits and help you get what you want out of life?

The answer to that question is all around you.

It could be a friend, a coworker, a family member, or a complete stranger.

If you want to become a better dancer and don’t know anyone who can dance, go on Google and search for the best dancers in your area.

See if they give classes or have courses that you can learn from.

Don’t have money? Contact them and see if they’d teach you in exchange for your services — you could offer to clean their office for free in exchange for dance lessons.

Get creative.

If you want to become a millionaire and don’t have a dime to your name… walk to your local library and read books on how other people became millionaires.

Copy their habits and make them your own — you’ll eventually become anything you want if you follow the habits of those who are already there.

How can such a simple question change the rest of my life?

The path of least resistane to your goals is to surround yourself with those who have already achieved them.

Miguel Cairo, Lifestyle Revolt

There are exceptions to every rule, but it’s a lot easier to become a millionaire by learning from other millionaires, then it is to do so by hanging out with your broke friends dreaming about what you would do if you won the lottery.

By immersing yourself in a new world and following the habits of those who have achieved your dreams, you’re bound to eventually become that which you want to be.

You don’t need to reinvent the wheel, just follow in the footsteps of those who created it.

For instance; if you want to become an inventor, follow in the footsteps of other inventors and learn how to create your own inventions.

Learn the process of becoming anything you wish to be by learning the habits of those who are already where you want to be.

Frinding the answer to “Who is the type of person that _________________________?” provides you the blueprint for being the person you’ve always wanted to become.

It’s a GPS that takes you directly to your desired destination, regardless of how many detours you encounter along the way.


You are a collection of your habits.

If you wish to change something about yourself then you must change your habits.

Your habits guide you throughout the day — you wake up around the same time and follow a similar routine each day.

Things change here and there, but for the most part, you could do everything you do each day in your sleep (without thinking about it).

So if you wish to change something about yourself, you must make a conscious effort to change your routine.

In order to become a new person, you must create new habits.

If you did your “homework” correctly, you have a blueprint for the new habits you need to implement into your daily routine to reach your goals.

Braking bad habits and replacing them with new ones can be extremely hard.

It’s like the old saying “old habits die hard.”

The best advice that I can give you for applying new habits, is to start small.

If you want to run a marathon, don’t expect to go outside and run ten miles on your first day of training.

Walk, jog, or run a mile first (depending on what shape you’re in) and work yourself up from there.

Michael Jordan didn’t become the greatest basketball player ever overnight.

Don’t expect instant results. It could take you months or maybe even years to start seeing results.

Just remember that lots of small gains, eventually turn into a huge gain.

The Law of Compound Effect describes this phenomenon as the reaping of huge rewards from a series of small, smart choices.

Try the following:

  1. Make a list of the people who already have or are doing the things you desire most.
  2. Study and learn from them as much as you can.
  3. Create new habits that put you on the right path to reaching your goals.
  4. Continue applying your new habits until you reach your desired destination.

You might notice profound changes in your life right away, but don’t expect instant results.

The key to being able to apply the habits that will get you what you want from life is to make small changes and work your way up to becoming the person you want to be.

Not to mention pushing through the tough times.

It can become very frustrating not being able to see the results you expect right away, but if you keep shooting, you’ll eventually make it.


Who is the type of person that _________________________?

The answer to that question holds the key to the type of person you can become.

Answering that question correctly can have a profound effect on the rest of your life.

Be sure to read this article to find the answer to that question, understand its importance, and be able to apply the things that it will teach you.

Useful Resources

Atomic Habits by James Clear

I am currently reading this book and it was partly what inspired me to write this article. I should put out a review of it in the next few days.

In this book, James Clear teaches you simple ways to build new (good) habits and break bad ones.

Your Concept Of Who You Are Is F*cking You Up

This is a YouTube video in which Tom Bilyeu interviews Mark Manson (Author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck) on his show called Impact Theory.

They discuss many topics, but I was mostly intrigued by Mark Manson’s explanation of why we see ourselves in certain ways.

Find Your Why by Simon Sinek

This is a business book but everything in it can be applied to your personal life.

Discovering your purpose could hold the key to finding the correct path to becoming the person you want to be.

Did the answer to the question come from those around you or did you have to go outside your bubble?

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